So Far Yet So Near

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When we speak to our loved ones on the phone, over whataspp, zoom or google meets we just don’t realise the huge distance or how far they are. We also do not realise that we have not met them over years and time just dissolves in the space of the internet.

However this was not the case about twenty years ago. I remember how much distance one had to carry in our hearts just to hear the voice of our loved ones or read their had written feelings in that blue heart pages of the inland letter. I would eagerly wait for that blue companion to reach my mail box. I would excitedly rush to get it and read and re read the contents pouring the love expressed inside.

My mother and I thought of many devices that would help us to send the affection to our close family who had chosen to stay far because of work or studies. We used to tape our voices over the recorder and laugh or sing songs so that it becomes easier for our beloved to carry on the tasks of the day. We also wrote diligently every week and it was an exercise that never failed us. That duty we created helped us in many ways and has helped us even today to keep in touch.

Those beautiful inland letters still are kept in boxes, the photographs sent, carefully placed in heavy albums. In todays world we can click and delete anything in nano seconds which many times has made us forget the value of being in the past. It should be said that to access is much easier which has its own advantage but it has made the sincerity towards our feelings a little hazy. In that haze we often times stand to forget as easily as we can remember.

Let us, I urge keep both in store, the virtual and the real both can amalgamate into a zigzag cross roads of several meeting points and quick departures. These goodbyes will only be met soon, which can then become realities. Our world is being far enough to be near, very near and let that closeness remain as the mementos we will treasure forever.

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Gouri Nilakantan

Gouri Nilakantan Mehta holds a masters degree from Miami University and is currently persuing her Phd in theatre from the dept of Arts and Aesthetics at JNU Delhi. She has over 23 publications to her credit and has presented several papers at international conferences at Japan, Pakistan, Dubai and America. She was awarded the best graduate student award by Miami University. She has also directed over 12 plays and has produced more than 25. ABOUT GOURI Honest and straight forwardness is appreciated by me rather than a soft and gentle approach FAVOURITE QUOTES the only short cut between two points is a straight line

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11 Responses

  1. Avatar Preeti Phutela says:

    Beautiful indeed Gouri! Your personal touch to your loved ones how far they May be is heart warming ❤️

  2. Avatar Dr.Mukta Mishra says:

    Gouri Nilakantan’s article ‘So Far Yet So Near’ is a beautifully nostalgic and deeply touching reflection on how communication has evolved over time. She masterfully contrasts the warmth of handwritten letters and recorded messages with the instant yet fleeting nature of today’s digital interactions.

    The way she describes eagerly awaiting inland letters, treasuring their contents, and preserving them as keepsakes evokes a sense of longing and appreciation for the sincerity of the past. Her words remind us of the emotional depth that traditional communication carried—something that often feels diluted in the fast-paced digital world.

    Her call to balance both the virtual and the real is particularly poignant. While technology has made it easier to connect, it has also made goodbyes quicker and sentiments more transient. Yet, as she beautifully puts it, our world remains “far enough to be near,” emphasizing that the bonds we cherish should be preserved, no matter the medium.

    This article is a heartfelt tribute to the art of staying connected, urging us to blend the warmth of the past with the convenience of the present. A truly valuable and thought-provoking read!

  3. Avatar Kalpana Jayashankar says:

    Beautifully written Gouri. Do they still have inland mails and the blue letters?

  4. Avatar Amita says:

    Old memories die hard. A beautifully crafted article takes me back to old times.

    • Avatar Swapan karmakar says:

      Life often brings us to moments where our dreams, relationships, or success seem within reach – so close that we can almost touch them. Yet, an invisible barrier keeps us from crossing that final step.
      It could be missed opportunity, a misunderstanding, or just bad timing. Sometimes we struggle despite giving our best, watching others achieve what we yearn for. The distance isn’t always physical – it’s emotional, psychological, or circumstantial.
      But perhaps the gap exists to teach us patience, resilience, or a different perspectives. Maybe being ” so close” is a reminder that persistence, faith, or a change in approach is all we need to finally bridge the distance.

    • Avatarwp-user-avatar wp-user-avatar-48 alignnone photo Gouri Nilakantan says:

      yes indeed old times were precious

  5. Avatar Ramya n says:

    Reality indeed

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