the little fledgling will leave its nest
We are just birds, we build nests for our eggs to hatch and keep them warm until our fledglings arrive. When its time a gentle push is given to the fledgling to leave the comfort of its coop, only to recreate its own. The birds show no signs of grief when their little ones leave, as they know its only a cycle, then why do humans lament? Is it because as humans we are much more clingy, much more emotionally attached, or simply we just don’t know how to adjust to change.
Change is progress I would say, it is an indicator to not only growth of others but also self growth. However in our cases, unlike birds, we do not need to leave the past completely behind but only allow the past to become a beautiful reminder of tomorrow. Our days to come can hence be planned in such a way that we allow for the easy exit of our young ones and at the same time we also are able to normalise the different situation.
It will be time for me also to bid ” cu soon take care” soon, very soon to my own fledgling. I will see the flight of my young one, only to welcome the change with cheer both for him and me. While he carves his own journey, I know that new meanings of the situation can be given by me alone. This itself is giving me the eagerness to look forward for the new times to come. There is no fear in my heart and why should there be I wonder? No, I don’t have any ready made answers nor ready plans. All I have is a happy, contented heart to see now the young ones leave and the new emerging times to come to be happy for his occasional returns and my own abode to be.
For me the fact that I can see my young one leave without any fear but with a sense of joy and the fact that I will find myself in a contented space calls for happiness. That happiness will allow me to explore and create new meanings for myself. Its going to be now a state of creating new dreams for me to draw and colour in myriad formations. The staircase to my new starlit world is within my steady and happy gait.
Wonderful! How easy it will become for our children and us, if we stop clinging on to them!
Beautifully expressed and penned down dear Gouri! Keep writing, keep sharing, it is so beautiful!
thank you so much
I think the difference between birds and humans is our more evolved brain and as rightly said, more enhanced emotions of clinging to what is ours.
You have so beautifully penned down the emotions of mist parents whose young ones are moving out or have moved out. I , for one , totally associate with this feeling. Reading this, has made my heart lighter and has doubled my resolve to explore dreams of my own and stride towards them.
Thanks for sharing these powerful and inspiring thoughts with me.
We need to explore our dreams keeping in mind that our children even though away might always need us
Thank you poonam
Quite agree and was prepared for the next phase in my own life as my fledging have flown away.
I did not have to grieve as I was prepared and was delighted to see them discover and live their own lives.
Now I am able to live for myself and do the things I longed to doтАж live my own life as per my terms and conditions!
Life is a circle and what goes around, come around!
True life is only a cycle
Gouri the Blog is so very crisp and to the poiiunt as we humans have to let our children live their passion rather than just protecting them always with our thoughts and ideas… We force our verdict on our children and that is the big problem with us and yes I loved your initial lines where you tslk of the birds in fact give a push to their Birdies to live their independent life… Mesmerizing article indeed… Keep writing and keep making us also think out of box like you
yes we should allow our young ones to take flight
Been there, done that, but it’s never in the past! Each new phase (“change” as you mention) brings its own share of how detached one needs to be even if a verklempt reaction is normal. Must accept this, too. While “helicoptering” might be tempting, letting the fledgeling find its own niches, falls and stumbling, bruises and bumps on the road included. Two books you might like to have your offspring keep in his backpack are: Dr. Seuss’s “Oh, the Places You Will Go,” and Richard Bach’s “Jonathan Livingston Seagull,” among other gems. Enjoy the next phase of your life: seeing you baby chick fly away ЁЯЩВ ЁЯТЛ What will color it the best is the excitement he will feel as he looks forward to the new experiences even if laced with trepidation that await him. Good luck!
Let go! and how to adapt to better’ situations nothing is permanant and nothing lasts forever!
so true so so true